How to handle it — getting older, in the hard moments
Moves for the stuff that knocks older blokes around.
Work's finished and you've lost your purpose, your mates, your reason to get up.
— Right now
- Name it — losing the job is losing a big chunk of identity. The flatness makes sense.
- Build one thing into tomorrow worth getting up for — a walk, a shed job, a coffee with someone.
— Don't
- Don't let the days blur with no shape. Structure is what work quietly gave you.
— Later
- Men's Sheds, volunteering, a cause — purpose can be rebuilt, and it matters as much as ever.
Work's finished and you've lost your purpose, your mates, your reason to get up.
— Right now
- Name it — losing the job is losing a big chunk of identity. The flatness makes sense.
- Build one thing into tomorrow worth getting up for — a walk, a shed job, a coffee with someone.
— Don't
- Don't let the days blur with no shape. Structure is what work quietly gave you.
— Later
- Men's Sheds, volunteering, a cause — purpose can be rebuilt, and it matters as much as ever.
Getting older: the short version
- 1.Retired and adrift? Build one thing worth getting up for.
- 2.Reach out first — you're not a bother.
- 3.Grieve what's changed, then do what you still can.
- 4.Don't write off low mood as 'just age' — see your GP.
- 5.Grief alone gets dangerous — Lifeline 13 11 14.
Doing it tough?Call Lifeline 13 11 14