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How to handle it — being a dad when you're struggling

Moves for the moments fatherhood knocks you around.

No sleep, no time, and you're flat and snappy when you 'should' be happy.

Right now

  • Tag-team a break with your partner — even 20 minutes resets you.
  • Lower the bar to surviving the day. Nobody's nailing this bit.
  • Get outside with the pram. Daylight and movement help you both.

Don't

  • Don't bottle 'I'm not coping' — dads get perinatal depression too, and it's treatable.

Later

  • Sign up to SMS4dads, and see your GP if the flatness sticks.

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Being a dad: the short version

  1. 1.Tag-team a break. Survive the day.
  2. 2.About to lose it? Step out, drop your voice.
  3. 3.Plan the kid-free nights — empty ones are the risk.
  4. 4.They need you here and trying, not perfect.
  5. 5.Flat after a baby? Dads get it too — see your GP.
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